The Truth is . . .

Posted by on May 25, 2011 in Daily Blog, Random | Comments Off

So, I looked back over the posts that I have put up over the past couple of weeks and I began to notice a pattern. In reading the past posts I have made a lot of comparisons between yesteryear and the current state of affairs and targeting having children as the turning point for my adventure levels. It is true that the kids have had some influence on my activity level the amount of time that I spend being active, but it is also true that my motivations for being outside were on a changing course anyway.

I love having kids and I was entirely ready to have them. My wife and I waited longer than most folks to have kids and we did a lot of living before they came into our lives. Still, my kids are the greatest adventure I have ever been on. Before having kids I had traveled through 49 of the 50 states and to other countries. In my travels I have climbed ice and rock, biked, boated, hang glided, and caved. I have written and completed a bucket list, added on to it, and checked off items I never new existed. And now, I get to add father, the accomplishment I am most proud of.

I know kids aren’t for everyone, but, as it turns out, I was meant to be a dad. My wife and I have been together for over 10 years, and for most of that time I was told kids were never an option. I was OK with that. Then, one day, my wife did, what appeared to me to be, a complete 180 degree turn. I was a bit blown away but I was game. Besides, trying is fun. Before my wife announced that she wanted to have kids our life was a cycle of adrenaline filled activities, assessing weather conditions, and planning our next trips. In the end, the kids have grounded us, brought us laughter and joy, removed predictability, and shoved us out of our comfort zones.

The truth is my adventuring ways were headed down a different track before the kids. My measure of fun was changing. Instead of the hardest rivers, I was looking for long multi-day trips. Instead of hard climbs, I wanted unique rock and views.┬áIt was not so much that I was tired of being afraid, I just don’t need the scare factor to have fun anymore. I get satisfaction and thrill watching my kids experience being outside, learning about how the world works, and learning new things.

And its not as if having kids isn’t scary. Often the fear is way greater than anything else I have experienced. The difference is the fear is for someone else’s well being. In many ways you have to respond the same way to these fears as the ones that are adrenaline related. If you are not careful, the fears will consume you and you will be paralyzed, or try to prevent your kids from getting hurt. You need to find a way to acknowledge the fear, use it when appropriate, and move forward through it when it is getting in the way of allowing your kids to grow or advance.

 

Photo By: Kathryn Langmuir