Managing Expectations

Posted by on Jan 6, 2012 in Daily Blog, Random | Comments Off

I am not normally one for New Years Resolutions, but I have decided to make one for 2012. My resolution: To manage my expectations.

As someone who loves outdoor activities, I am looking forward to doing the things I love with my kids. Sometimes I find it hard to wait for the kids to be able to participate. Though, in all honesty, my impatience could be due, in part, to my desire to ski something besides the bunny slope at Purgatory. Don’t get me wrong, I love skiing with my daughter, but sometimes that 100 vertical feet really does feel like a type of purgatory. The thing of it is, my kids are young, and I realize that it is not reasonable to expect great talent, or even great enthusiasm, for the things that I love at this stage in their lives. My goal is to encourage the idea that these things are FUN! Skills can come later.

Soccer was my first test. I have played soccer since I was 6, and loved the game since I first stepped on the field. I played for over half my life. I stopped playing when my option became adult leagues and I just got tired of being hacked. I rediscovered soccer this year when my daughter signed up to play for her first season. I spent a season on the sidelines juggling the ball. My daughter spent the season . . . well, having fun, and . . . sometimes playing soccer. It was a great season. At the end of the season my daughter was ready to keep playing. At her age, that is success!

Skiing – the main winter activity for my wife and I. My daughter has been on skis since she could walk. At the end of last year she was basically skiing on her own. She only had a support leash because she like knowing that we were nearby. We took her out for her first time skiing this year and I was almost carrying her down the mountain. I figured she was going to jump on the skis and start right where she had left off. Granted, she had not eaten and it had been a late night before but . . . As it turns out, we fed her lunch and off she went. Right back up to speed. I have to admit that those initial minutes were a bit frustrating. I had to keep reminding myself how fortunate I was to be able to ski with my daughter. At the end of the day she wanted to ski again. Great Day!

That’s the thing. I need to keep reminding myself that this is not about what I want. I can’t make my kids love the things I love. I can only expose them to things I do and do it in such a way that my kids find them fun! At my kids age, if they can learn to have fun with the sports skills will come later. I am learning to measure success in smiles!

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